Are Men Going Through a Sex Recession?

We always hear about women having low libidos, but these days, more and more men are stressed out and losing interest in sex. The latest figures show one in five couples is experiencing sexual famine. Shocking? Yes, but sadly, not surprising in this economy.

Why Men Don’t Want It As Much   

When men don’t feel like they can provide for their families, they can lose their mojo.

Stress is the biggest libido zapper we know, and for a man, it’s specifically cash flow and work-related issues that can bring his drive way down. If a man is feeling insecure about his career – an area linked strongly with his sense of masculinity – he’ll be low on confidence. Think of it like this: If a man’s ego is intact, so is his libido. If it isn’t… well, that isn’t there either! For men, the two go hand-in-hand.

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If your guy’s libido has taken a nosedive, don’t panic… start by following my 3-step plan for resuscitating your ailing sex life:

3 Ways to Recharge Your Man: 

Step 1: Get Talking

If your husband or boyfriend isn’t in the mood for sex because of work-related stress, don’t take it personally! When a man talks about his emotions, it can actually make him feel even more stressed out. Tell him lovingly that he can reach out to you about how he’s feeling, but not until he feels ready. Just make it clear that what’s important to you is that you stay close physically – even if sex is off the table at the moment.

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Step 2: Just Say No!

In my experience, when a couple hasn’t had sex for a while, it puts a lot of pressure on them to have it… and the longer a couple doesn’t have sex, the bigger that pressure becomes. Try banning sex for a whole month. This way, you can get close to each other by being intimate in so many other wonderful ways, without one of you feeling there’s an ulterior motive. You'll stay close during this difficult time, and because of all the extra intimacy, when you do have sex, it is certain to become even more meaningful!

Step 3: Stay in Touch

According to studies, massage increases serotonin and dopamine, the ‘feel-good’ brain chemicals, and it decreases the levels of cortisol, the stress hormone. Try giving your partner an all-over body massage twice a week! Not only can this be a highly sensual experience, it will also help him relax both physically and emotionally… taking him one step closer to feeling his sexy self again!  

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